People not that into it, actually.
I have a theory. Most men and women alike prefer a love with expectations — one that makes them suffer and fight and jump through hoops — because ultimately most people seek love as a way to feel good about themselves, and if they don’t feel like they’re EARNING it (making mistakes, upsetting the other person, and them making up for it) they don’t enjoy it as much.
If Judy accepts Jack as he is, Jack may just not be as engaged as he might if had to pay for her love. It’s like somebody gave you a car for free. You’re like, “Um, really? Uh… is there something I should know about the car? Is it TOTALLY HAUNTED?”
Can romantic love under these terms even BE unconditional? Can a person be an active participant in a relationship that doesn’t involve struggle? Can a partnership be about something other than proving your worth, and if so, then what is that something?
These are questions I am having.
I have had a lot of caffeine.
