Name a Source of Stress. Survey Says…
Okay. I’ve been feeling kinda whiny lately about various things, and although I realize that my problems are self-imposed and really pretty trifling, and I have a huge safety net with my family and I ain’t going over the cliff any time soon, I feel I may whine at ANY MOMENT.
But everybody’s got problems — why am I the one who gets whine privilieges? So what I want to hear is:
What’s going on right now that’s stressing you out?
Anything is fair game. Bonus points for things that were stressing you out that recently got resolved.
Money – the lack of same, I should say, that is preventing my planning for my upcoming run for the (Canadian) border should GWB win in November, which is the thing that is TRULY stressing me out.
Heh – save your money. Canada`s got natural resources and cheap drugs — George Bush`s Amurrica would be invading them too by 2007.
My mother, who has a vague grasp of English (she`s German) has an AOL account that I pay for. She was getting alot of those phony email that ask for your information and credit card numbers. So every day I was getting 3 or 4 forwarded spams and and equal number of panicked emails from my mother asking if she should respond. I was in terror that she would do what they ask and end up with her credit cards maxed out or something. AOL wouldn`t help me, because I wasn`t her. So I installed AOL on my machine, and now I check her mail every day and delete her spam. Oy.
I have a boss who`s generally known as, well I don`t even know what–arrogant? obnoxious? rude? a…bitch? So my job is going well, great even, but always in the back of my mind is this voice wondering “When`s the other shoe gonna drop? Hmmm? She sure is ACTING nice, isn`t she?” So it`s weird, because I actually like what I`m doing and have had nothing but pleasant experiences with her. ANYWAY, so we`re in a meeting the other day and I says to myself, self I says: what is she really IS nice? All of these other impressions could have been wrong. Instead of approaching her with a vague yet chilling sense of dread, why don`t I reorient and actually assume she`s just what she appears to be in OUR dealings. And I actually felt my neck relax. Okay. So this isn`t that stressful. But I was proud of myself for acting like a grown-up for a change.
One of my best friends was just in the hospital with a condition that might have killed her instantly in the last two months; my step-grandmother just died of the same thing, and another friend died of it in high school. Two days ago my other friend would have been 23 if he hadn`t died in an accident last fall. I worry about the mortality of my friends, and of myself–it seems the world is suddenly fraught with danger, when I know that from now on there are more people who are/will be my friends who will die than who will be born. I am almost paralyzed by fear these days. And I don`t know how to go about my life feeling this way. There`s no good conclusion to come to, no realization that will make me feel better. So that`s stressing me out.
I was told that I probably had pancreatic cancer. The surgery and test results came back in my favor, no cancer. Much stress…
GAH! You guys have lots of stress! This is hella putting things in perspective for me, and I appreciate it.
Yipes.. all that makes mine sound way less important.. I`ve been struggling with my ailing PC for a week now, all attempts to fix it have only made the problems worse. I`m looking at a reformat of the C drive today, ifyouknowhatImean. Ugh. Then, of course, there`s always the worry of money.. I hate my f-in` job and the people I wait on, plus they don`t know how to tip.. so what`s the incentive to work hard? Luckily I just got my financial aid and will hopefully be getting a loan check soon.. I can start putting money in my savings so that I can move to the university town at the end of the year.
I have issues that began to physically manifest, and I was getting over them for a while, and I was doing all good and stuff… But in the past week, things have gotten pretty bad. Isn`t interesting – as soon as classes start back up, my issues reemerge…
stress? i don`t know…most of the sleep i`ve gotten over the past week has been anesthesia induced.
Certainly nothing as scary as cancer…but my boyfriend got a great job offer in Florida…which is about 1300 miles away from where we live now. I moved home last year specifically to be near my two octegenarian grandmothers who won`t last long and my father, who might drop from a heart attack any day. This is the man I finally found to marry – to spend the rest of my life with, and he wants to be in Jacksonville by October 1st. I, on the other hand, have no job offer, no friends or family there and cannot live without him. I`m trying to decide how to completely uproot my life, find a job, a place to live, etc. and remain an open caring supportive individual to him. Oh yeah, did I mention I just moved into a new house a month ago and just started a semester of graduate school?
I`ve been trying desperately to get up enough money to finish my degree, which is IMPOSSIBLE, seeing as how my parents won`t help me and I can`t find a job because…here`s the funny part: I haven`t had a steady job! Oh yeah, and the recurring melanoma (I had it last year, and now another funky mole showed up) combined with the lack of health insurance, lack of work, and the love of my life is 3000 miles away. Yeah, things are peachy! To Kat: decide if this person is worth the pain of uprooting. If he is, go for it no holds barred.
TEH BUNNAH, well you made me feel ashamed to gripe!! 🙂 Good luck with the funky mole. TAKE THAT SUCKER OFF. And thank you for your advice. I decided he was worth it, indeed.